Facebook and other social media outlets are truly a marvelous invention…until it gets in the way of your relationship with your surrogate or intended parents. We are often reminded to watch what you post because you don’t know who may be reading your blog, timeline,tweets or looking at photos. Employers are often vetting applicants by Googling them and reading the latest activity or looking at the newest photos. Even if your privacy setting is on the most restrictive there are ways to get around all of that!
When you are sharing so much information out in the cyber world you have to take into consideration what others (IPs, case managers, surrogates) may think of your cartoons, announcements and status updates. If you have an unusual ritual that may flip out even your closest family member just think of what an IP may think especially if you are already pregnant with their child. Perhaps you are an intended parent struggling to quit your smoking habit and are posting that online. If your surrogate doesn’t know of this issue at the start of your relationship she may ask herself what else has been hidden from her. If a surrogate, who has agreed to cut back on her caffeine, posts that she has already had 3 cups of coffee and it’s not even 9 am she may have a concerned phone call from her IP’s.
This is not about hiding facts or holding back important information but more about watch what you post or tweet because the reactions on both sides could be filled with misunderstandings. Don't forget all those support groups out there where you feel fine about venting and then realize that your words have been read by people you have a surrogacy relationship with.
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