Money and Babies...should the two ever meet? Part One

This is something that is talked about in religion, politics and among those who want kids...and don't have them. To be blunt, often times it comes down to the money when a decision is made (to move forward with a surrogacy) on any or all of the following; Agency services, Clinic's used, what "optional" testing is done, who is chosen to donate eggs, who is chosen to be the surrogate and who the lawyers are. Even if money isn't a huge issue for the Intended Parents, no one wants to feel that they are being taken advantage of. I am not suggesting that people should not compare the costs however I believe that you may get what you pay for. (or worse yet, NOT) Before prices perhaps, as far as the professionals are concerned, services and reputations need to be compared. As far as Egg Donors go, before looking at her "cost" see if she has all the qualities that you are looking for in the genetic make up of your potential offspring. When you are choosing a woman to carry your baby then perhaps you first need to see if she is someone you feel confident can build a mutual relationship with based on honesty and trust. (Not on how much her base fee is).

Now lets talk about that money issue. First, no matter how much money we are talking about, all funds pertaining to the surrogacy should be deposited into an escrow account. This escrow agent would be responsible for cutting the checks directly to the surrogate for the start of medication fee, transfer fees and any monthly fees. Also, any monetary reimbursements that are mentioned in the contract which can include maternity clothing, travel expenses, child care and house keeping services. No matter what the financial issue, the surrogate would be instructed to contact the escrow agent for any and all questions and requests regarding reimbursement. If the escrow agent then has a question regarding the request, it is then his or her job to directly contact the IP's. This usually keeps a nice buffer between the IP and the SM. Having the money handled in this manner allows the IP's to concentrate on the pregnancy, the person carrying their baby, and the relationship in general and not the money. (Although it will always be in the back of any responsible person's mind who needs to keep track of the budget, however, when it has all been deposited into an account up front then its easier for all involved to relax.)

Look Part Two of Money and Babies